Is equality worth fighting for? Should everyone have the same opportunities in life?
Then why is it that so many of us bust our butts to fight for the complete opposite?
Of course, as the title suggests, I am talking about parenting. It seems that while we are happy to claim equality as a goal we work so fervently to create advantage for our kids? When it comes to our little angels, we suddenly forget our high-minded ideals, and act with a favoritism that would be illegal if it were based on colour, religion race or creed.
This may sound like a trivial point when you first think about it, but hold on two ticks and give it a little think.
How will society ever become equal if every parent is hell-bent on giving their kid every advantage they can?
Would I not try to get my kid into the class with the best teacher, or the school with the best record, or the college with the most prestige?
Would I not work hard to pay for ballet classes and piano lessons and school trips to DC and all the things a kid needs in order to be equipped for the high life? Would I not wish for them to inherit a fortune and thriving family business?
How can I compete in a meritocracy with my only aim being to give my kids an advantage in the next leg of the race?
The meritocracy is no meritocracy if you can inherit advantage, and if you can pass on no advantage to your kids, then what is the point of the fight?
It seems the very concept of a fair system where reward is based on individual effort is unstable as we all strive to pass on generational advantage.
It also seems to me that people’s fortunes do not depend on their own merits as individuals, but rather on the merits of their “node” in the web of society – where opportunities depend on connections. As the sayings go – no man is an island and it’s not what you know, but whom.
These realisations suggests to me that equality or even the idea of the meritocracy are mirages – good to aim at, but don’t go too close as they will recede, or worse still, vanish.